Becky with the Good Hair

Hi Loves!  Any other Queen B fans out there?  I have to admit I haven’t had the time to watch Lemonade in full, but I do know I’ve read about the drama regarding “Becky with the good hair” and just thought since this post is all about GOOD HAIR – why not have a fun title to go along with it….even though this Becky person obviously did not have other good qualities about her.  haha

I’ve gotten a few requests for a hair care post so I wanted to deliver!  I have a love/hate relationship with my hair right now.  I guess I’m on trend with my grown out roots, thank goodness!  But I honestly have these roots because I just haven’t wanted to take the time to leave my little girl for a hair appointment.  It’s been 10 months of no hair appointments!  I never, ever thought I would go this long.  I was an “every 7 weeks” hair appointment gal before having my baby.  So funny how things change.  Anywho, since I haven’t gotten my hair done, I’ve really tried to take good care of it otherwise, and I honestly do miss that feeling you have when you have just been to the salon.  Good thing my hubby finally convinced me to set an appointment so soon I’ll be feeling fresh again.  Time to chop these extra long locks!

A few things that my close friends know about me and my hair….

I hate washing my hair – like really!  I wash my hair one time a week.

I use coconut oil for everything – including my hair.

Now that you know those things about me and my hair, let’s talk about hair care.

Washing your Hair

Do you wash every day?  You most likely don’t need to….even if you work out.  Washing your hair every day strips your hair of the oils necessary to maintain healthy strands.  Even if you work out every day, you could most certainly go at least every other day without a wash if not 3 days.  You do have to “train” your hair to get used to this new cycle so it’s good to set your mind to it and train those locks to adjust to a every 3rd day washing…and then if you’re brave, push it even more days.  I always pick a hairstyle on that very last day before I wash again that keeps my dirty hair off my face – whether that’s a braid or a messy top-knot, my friends can always tell when it’s time for me to do my weekly wash.  And I do always use a dry shampoo on those last couple of days – but it is important not to use a dry shampoo more than 3 days in a row because it can cause some nasty buildup in your hair.  Yuck!

Just like with my skincare, I really try to use products without nasty ingredients on my hair as well.  It’s been a major challenge finding products that are good AND actually work!  Is that too much to ask?  I feel like a lot of the organic options don’t actually work with color-treated hair or penetrate the hair shaft like is necessary for repairing the strands after we damage them with color & heat day after day.  After A LOT of trial and error – here are my top shampoo’s:

Alterna Caviar Repair Instant Recovery Shampoo – Sold at Nordstrom, Ulta & Sephora

The ONE thing that keeps me from re-purchasing this one over and over is the packaging (the twist top combo with a harder bottle makes the product hard to get out of it’s container) and it does have a higher price point.  But I do love the way my hair feels, behaves and looks when using this one.  I think I’m going to buy the liter size next time I go with this one so I don’t have to deal with the annoying packaging that the 8.5 oz has.

Derm Organic Daily Conditioning Shampoo – Sold at Ulta or

I like the smell of this one and how it cleansed my hair, but I wasn’t a fan of any of the other products by this brand so it’s not always at the top of my go-to list, but I will probably purchase again because the shampoo was very nice and I love that it’s organic.

Surface Awaken Shampoo – Sold at certain salons

This one could be hard to find, the website does have a salon locator on it so you could find salons that carry this one or try Amazon.  Just be sure you’re buying from reputable seller if you go with Amazon.  I’m ALWAYS leery of buying beauty products via Amazon because I feel like they could be changed somehow since it may not  be coming from a licensed seller of the brand.  But this shampoo was another fave of mine and I will definitely re-purchase.

Other brands on my list to try soon are; BeautyCounter, Kevin Murphy & Earth’s Nectar.

Next – I only have one fave dry shampoo and this is it:

Moroccan Oil Dry Shampoo

I have tried so many different dry shampoo’s and never really fell in love with any of them…until I tried this one.  I use the one for light tones, and they have one for dark tones too, which I feel is a major benefit of this one.  And bonus – no parabens, no phthalates and no talc either!

Time to Condition

This is where I get really picky!  My hair is long and tangles up so easily and I have to use a conditioner that will detangle this mess or else I’m spending literally 15 – 20 minutes combing my hair after a shower — who has that kind of time?  Not me!

My fave conditioners are:

Alterna Caviar Repair Instant Recovery Conditioner – Sold at Nordstrom, Ulta & Sephora

My hair did feel instantly repaired with the use of this conditioner.  At the time, I was getting my hair lightened every 6 – 7 weeks and wanted that ashy blonde tone – bye bye golden locks!  Which means my hair was going through some extra stress, or damage if you will.  So I needed an intense conditioner and this did the trick.  I loved how amazing my hair felt when I used this one and I’m about to re-purchase this again because I love it so much.

Redken All Soft Conditioner – Sold at Ulta & salons

It PAINS me to put this on the list because it’s not really a brand or product that meets my typical ingredient standards, but I cannot help but love the way my hair feels when I use this one.  It’s been a tried and true conditioner in my shower for years – and it’s my default when I’ve been trying organic ones and dealing with a tangled mess and dry locks as a result.  And you can’t beat the price point.  I literally feel conflicted every time I buy this, but it works!  What can I say?

Marula Intensive Repair Conditioner – Sold at Sephora

I just recently used this product and fell in love with how it made my hair feel.  I usually have to load on the conditioner in my hair and I really didn’t have to do that with this one.  When I put it on my hair – it spread very easily,  rinsed easily and barely any tangles to comb out after I used it, which made this one move to the top of my fave list.

Hair Masks/Treatments

I use coconut oil on my hair on the reg – I LOVE the way my hair feels afterwards.  I apply it to my dry hair, usually in the evening, by taking a small section of hair and warming the coconut oil in my hands (so it melts a little bit) and then starting at the ends working it through my hair all the way to the root.  I repeat this until my whole head is a coconut oily mess and then top-knot it and put on a shower cap.  I like to sleep in it, but you don’t have to in order to get the benefits.  You could leave it on for 15 or 20 minutes and then rinse.  You’ll most likely need to shampoo twice with a gentle shampoo to get the oil out of your hair.  If you do sleep in it, I lay a towel down on my pillow so the oil doesn’t leak out onto my pillow case so keep that in mind if you give this a try.

My other favorite hair treatment is the Pureology Hydrate Hydra Whip – this stuff is amazing!  It smells amazing, feels amazing – and just leaves my hair feeling like I just had a super, uber expensive hair treatment at the salon.  I love this stuff.

I would seriously LOVE to hear from you about which hair care products you use that cater to color-treated hair, don’t have sulfates, phthalates, parabens, etc., AND make your hair feel and look great!   I’m in the mood to try some new ones.

Have a great weekend!

Kisses from Sarah K





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  1. 9.23.16
    Michelle said:

    Love this! As you know I’m a 2/week washer myself and also dread the process. I have been trying a lot of different shampoo and conditioners lately that are sulfate free…currently using Pacifica Coconut Power Strong. Not quiet as soft as I’d like it to be but I feel good knowing it’s a clean product (pun intended!). I’m going to start incorporating a coconut oil deep hydration every few weeks…

    Glad you scheduled a hair appointment. You gotta treat yo self, mama!

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